Thursday, May 31, 2012

Fam

Over the last 3 years my thoughts and feelings towards "family", and what that means, have changed.  Maybe not a lot, maybe not at all, but I've definitely been thinking about and articulating what I want family to mean to me.
  
Ever since my little family was whittled from 4 down to 2, it's been on my mind a lot.  Rightly so.  I don't see Kaed much anymore, and though I still have a great relationship with him, his absence has had a greater impact on me than most realize.  In my previous post, I waxed poetic on how much Dash loves his brother and wants him around all the time.  I'm in the same boat.  Kaed was not just my girlfriend/wife's kid, he became like a son to me.  He was a catalyst in my being with Leah in the first place.  It was a priviledge to care for him and I openly welcome (still) every opportunity.  (Kaed's got a great dad btw)  But with him around much less now, it's caused some things to come into focus for me regarding Dash. 

Dash.  DSL.  Little Diesel.  My little boy is going to be in kindergarten next year!  How is this possible?  How am I this old?  Ha.  Lately I've been reading a lot on children who come from "broken homes" and study after study confirms some of my biggest fears: kids are like their parents!  Shoot.  What is normal in a child's life will most likely be the norm in their own homes as adults.  I'll be honest, that's a little scary.  And I'm going to do whatever I can to prevent some of his current "norms" don't become permanent norms.  I probably aught to stop reading all these parenting studies because all they seem to do is freak me out.  Knowledge = responsibility = prevention = A TON OF PRAYER & THE WORD.  

"Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be." -David Bly

Monday, May 7, 2012

Brotherly Love

Dash loves his older brother.  There's no getting around it.  For example, this weekend when he had his 5th birthday party, he was very happy to see each of his friends and family, but when I told him that Kaed was coming...."Yeeessssssssss!"  To Dash, everything is better when Kaed is there.  Everything.  Even showers apparently.  Dash took a second shower the other day just because Kaed needed one - so he jumped in with him - then told me that he wouldn't need another one for 2 days because he took an extra one.  (smart kid, nice try)  What's really sweet of him is that when he doesn't get to seem him he's genuinely sad.  I mean, it's sad, and sweet.  There is no "half" brother status between them, and I love it.  the really great thing is that Kaed reciprocates the feelings.  He really likes having little bro around.  They have a lot of fun together.  And I am truly thankful.  Iron sharpens iron after all.